The idea of introducing a new playmate into your sexual relationship can be both exciting and concerning. Marrying the two ideas of a long term partner and a part-time lover can still feel taboo or unattainable even in today's open minded society.

So just how do you go about getting a threesome right? The first place to start is talking to your significant other about this budding idea you have been ruminating on. It goes without saying that it is going to take three to party, so making sure you open up the conversation early on and see how your partner feels about exploring this side of sex is really important.

How you approach the subject is important too, going in all excited guns blazing may not have the desired response you are hoping for! You know your partner better than anyone, you may already have a good idea of if your proposal will be well received or not. However, there is no harm in gently asking questions surrounding the idea of a threesome. Such questions as "Have you ever had any fantasies about multiple partners?" or "Do you think that you would be excited to have sex with someone new?" Make the questions about THEIR views, if you state early on that YOU want to try someone new, it may plant ideas in their mind that they are not enough for you, which can of course lead to problems in your relationship.

When floating these ideas to your partner, try to be reassuring and genuine when you make it clear that your partner is enough for you all on their own, that you view this as a way to bond and grow sexually TOGETHER, this approach is far more likely to result in a positive reception.

It make take some time for them to get to grips with the idea of introducing a new playmate into the bedroom, so give them time to mull over their own thoughts on your suggestions, but stay positive and lighthearted about your proposal, the more fun and inviting you manage to make it appear, the more likely they will say yes.

Hopefully, you will get the answer you are hoping for... What now?!

Well that's where the fun begins! Now you get to work together in narrowing down the candidates to one lucky person who will be given a golden invitation to share some adult threesome fun with you! Make this stage of your plan completely transparent, discuss every potential playmate openly with your partner, this is not a time to be secretive or keep your ideas to yourself. You don't want to alienate your significant other or make them think this is all your own fun, this is a group effort!

Try and find shared likes and dislikes in a playmate, and make a middle ground where you are both happy. Do you want a male or female? Slim, curvy, athletic? Long hair, short hair? Once you have an idea of what you both want, an obvious choice may jump out at you or you may realise the person you both want is currently on your radar. You can use websites to find a playmate, perhaps an escort or courtesan or some of you may even have friends and acquaintances that you think might be up for the threesome fun you have in mind! Don't rule anyone out and look at all your options thoroughly before planning your way forward.

Once your chosen playmate is secured it is time to work out possibly the most important part of all of this fun... YOUR HARD LIMITS.

"Hard limits" is generally a fetish term, used by submissives and dominants when determining the exact limits they are willing to go to. Soft limits, are ones that the participants are happy to try pushing, but are at the upper end of what they want. Hard limits are things that are totally out and should be respected by all parties. These could be things such as kissing, safety, bondage, spanking, and who gets the ejaculate or where it's going! This part really is the most important phase, make sure that everyone involved has had a chance to voice their hard limits and each member of the party is aware of them, comfortable with them, and will ultimately, respect them.

Now you have a brilliant knowledge base for building your ideal sexy threesome scenario, you are well placed to move this idea from a dream to reality. Good luck!